ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS 10 INTRODUCTION 13 1 WHEN SHADOWS FALL 24 Walking through the valley of grief and loss 2 LIVING WITH A SQUATTER 57 The unwanted and unwelcomed nature of grief and loss and why it feels so alien to us 3 STOP ALL THE CLOCKS 78 We want the world to notice our sorrow and how we cope with the fact that it doesn't 4 A JUMBLED JOURNEY 105 The chaos of grief and loss and how we navigate the unpredictability 5 THE SAP WILL RISE 140 Grief and loss are part of being human and how we learn to live in the seasons of life 6 HOLDING HANDS 180 Learning to have a different grip through grief and loss 7 THE CADENCE OF LOSS 193 Learning to celebrate the symphony of life in both the major and the minor keys 8 GOOD GRIEF 213 Learning to walk through sorrow and loss with Jesus 9 THE GOD WHO DOESN'T COME TO US, YET IS ALWAYS THERE 226 Making sense of God's absence in the midst of our grief and loss 10 REDEEMING OUR SORROW 243 The gift of grief and why it helps us 11 HOPE'S HEARTBEAT 261 The resurrection of Lazarus and why death does not have the last word 12 DEATH'S DEFEAT AND SHARED SORROW 276 Giving God our grief and loss 13 GOD WINS 287 The Christian story does not remove our grief and loss immediately, but it does transfigure them eternally 14 GOD IS ENOUGH 299 The painful lesson of grief and its power to reorder our lives NOTES 305 TEXT ACKNOWLEDGMENTS 331